I'm very fortunate. My husband and I met in physics lab my first year in college. (His 3rd). Our lab tables were adjacent, and after the first lab, both of our lab partners dropped out. So we repartnered with each other. It turned out that we had complementary problem-solving skills, and 3 years later (I graduated early) we married. It's been 57 years, and we're still good. I do think that that first year of partnered problem-solving was incredibly useful. I'd suggest that couples considering marriage do something similar--possibly try one or more "locked room" mystery scenarios, or work together on a home-improvement project. These things will highlight work-style differences and test how well you can overcome them.
Thanks so much, Coleen. And a great suggestion for learning how to communicate and solve problems before embarking on a serious relationship. Traveling together can also be a make it or break it learning experience.
Not spending enough time reflecting, reviewing, not getting enough sleep, being inconsistent with my eating habits (going long periods without eating), and not communicating effectively when l am under a lot of stress. Mainly stress, and not balancing my spiritual growth blocks the connections l crave.
I'm very fortunate. My husband and I met in physics lab my first year in college. (His 3rd). Our lab tables were adjacent, and after the first lab, both of our lab partners dropped out. So we repartnered with each other. It turned out that we had complementary problem-solving skills, and 3 years later (I graduated early) we married. It's been 57 years, and we're still good. I do think that that first year of partnered problem-solving was incredibly useful. I'd suggest that couples considering marriage do something similar--possibly try one or more "locked room" mystery scenarios, or work together on a home-improvement project. These things will highlight work-style differences and test how well you can overcome them.
Thanks so much, Coleen. And a great suggestion for learning how to communicate and solve problems before embarking on a serious relationship. Traveling together can also be a make it or break it learning experience.
Not spending enough time reflecting, reviewing, not getting enough sleep, being inconsistent with my eating habits (going long periods without eating), and not communicating effectively when l am under a lot of stress. Mainly stress, and not balancing my spiritual growth blocks the connections l crave.
Thanks so much for your thoughts. Those are all great points, and the importance of finding balance is so essential.